How To Become More Confident
How To Become More Confident.
Just like any muscle in your body your mind stent level can improve over time when you make use of a few key points.
Here are my top 5 rule to gaining instant confidence
Step 1 Understanding People
You got to understand there are two kind of people’s club, first one of those who don’t judge you immediately but that only about half the human population. most human beings are imitate to judge another human being based on other human being external appearance.
You know they tell you “don’t judge book by it covers” were to be honest lot of human being do judge you by a cover. That’s why you do have to care about dressing smart; you have to care about grooming your self. Are you looking neat and tidy?. You even have to care about body odour, the mouth odour you got to apply lilt bit of perfume.
Once you take these boxes I believe you cover whole external appearance game. This is were we move to internal appearance, as much as confidence it is about how you look outside!. Confidence at the about core is how do you feel about yourself on the inside.
Step 2 Positivity & Happiness
What if feel like if see someone make face on you..?
What if you feel like when someone look on you and smile at you…?
Because, human being are naturally brought us smile and happiness.
Every single room you go, to every single conversation you enter, go with positivity and happiness.
Moment you bring up positivity and happiness in to a conversation it just make other person you talking to get in to some kind of comfort zone.
You do the job of becoming happy, becoming little more positive, bring that in conversation and you automatically become lot more confident.
Step 3 Body Language
One Fact lot of people don’t focus on is the correct body language, even if you are internally confident person sometime the wrong body language can give out the wrong signals. here are my 4 rules
Don’t slouch and around walking don’t slouch at to the person, keep your back erects, keep it straight and conveying confidence.
2.No Close Body Language
Don’t play with your finger. Never ever fold your arms taking to the another human being, it convent that you are not interest in the conversation.
3. Constant Eye Contact
While you in conversation look at in to the eyes in the person you talking, don’t look down, don’t look around.
When you are talking to the person you going to face them. you don’t angle your body away from them. When you talking to someone the moment you angling your body, the moment you fiddling with your hand, the moment you looking down, it just tell the other person “ok may be this person isn’t talking to comfortable to me so I should back off.” Never make people back off.
Keep, some open body language going, keep your back straight, look like you like the person. You have nothing to hide if you bring in positivity and happiness once again.
4.Subtract Comparison & Add Curiosity
The biggest reason people feel under confident because they constantly in a state of comparison.
They thinking “oh! my god what he is think of me?”, “what is she think of me?” “he so smart “”she is so hot” and “I am really nothing.”
At every single stage a conversation and a life in general you got to preside your self as a kind of king or queen.
You are confident, you are perfect, you are no less than anyone to talk to keep the self presumption active in your head. but the second factor is as much as important you got to add curiosity to conversation just because you are king or queen it doesn’t mean that the other person talking to you is any less than you.
Subtract comparison but add curiosity.
If you are in conversation with anyone be curious about what they saying, be interested in conversation if they express there opinion on a topic feel free to express your own opinion as long as topic is not on religion, politics and as long as your opinion isn’t really negative.
“Secret life hack is if you stuck in a conversation just asking question to the other person what they are talking about if you don’t know what else to say.”
Finally point is just like any other life skill; confidence is one of those things you build on time passes.
4 point we talk about “practice” those 4 point.
If you don’t know someone on your workspace, you work with strangers at the work space or you are in party, go out and talk to them initiate conversation. What’s the worst that happen? they probably don’t talk to you much and step back and walk away.
You got to remember even I start of as an under confident person and today I am writing this blog on confidence. But, this is a skill I developed over the time after a series of failure conversation, but millions of successful conversation.
what’s I realize everyone is pretty much the same, all slightly under confident but even a lack of confidence anywhere around you, you should be that person who bring confidence in to every singe conversation in to every single person’s life when ever you going you carry that positive vibes, carry laughter, carry smile, and carry confidence.